Realizations That Have Changed My Life
I see things so differently at 26 than I did at 23, 20, 18... The value that I assign to different things and areas of my life have changed - sometimes drastically. In fact, if you had told me a few of these things at any other point in my life I would have argued with you all day about their validity.
But, they are valid nonetheless.
- You don't have to be friends with everyone. Not everyone is going to like you. In fact YOU aren't going to like everyone. That's fine, don't fake it. Can I get an amen? I used to feel like I had to be everyones friend. I loved being super social. I had a million people I could call friends. Now I have a very tight inner circle - three or four people - and I love it. It's not that I hate people (although sometimes I do) it's that I want to love my people well and with all of my heart and soul. Having acquaintances and causal friends is cool and fun and everything (sometimes), but I'd rather have deeper connections.
- Exercise is not the devil, the way you're thinking is. If you stop spending all of your energy hating it so much it will become significantly less painful. If you stop telling yourself that you're fat and have to "start exercising immediately," you'll feel less pressure and less negativity... and you won't burn out. How about attempting to take care of your body because you love it, not punish it because you hate it? Revolutionary.
- If you don't like something, you can ACTUALLY CHANGE IT. I feel like this is something that gets said all of the time, yet throughout most of my life I felt completely powerless to change my circumstances. I really did. I'm honestly not sure why - but if I had to guess I would say fear. It can feel like it's easier to stay in something you hate than it is to change things, because that's a risk. It isn't. That is a sure fire way to drain your creativity, your happiness, and your life. Look at the thing you don't like - look it straight in the f*cking eye, and then change it.
- Cheese makes you SICK YOU IDIOT. Okay, this one may or may not apply to you, but chances are you have a cheese in your life. Doing something that makes you physically (or mentally) ill makes absolutely no sense. Why am I eating cheese when I know it's going to make me want to curl up into a ball and die? Yes, cheese is good, but it's not worth being sick over. Apply this to relationships also.
- Build your self worth. Continue working on it. Feel solid in it. Own your badassery. Love your f*cking self utterly and completely. In the wise words of sex and the city, you are your longest relationship - and you know what, you f*cking ROCK. There is no one, no one, that can take that away from you. Empower yourself. Treat yourself. Love yourself. Walk around secure in the knowledge that you are a mother f*cking unique and amazing gem. It's a fact and your life will be so much better for knowing it deep within your soul.